"A relationship without trust is like a river without water."

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, but after experiencing a toxic dynamic, rebuilding trust can feel daunting. The truth is, before we can trust others, we must first learn to trust ourselves—and that’s no small feat.

Rebuilding Self-Trust: Starting With Your Inner Child

To truly rebuild my self-trust, I had to reconnect with my inner child. Growing up, my inner child often felt unheard and invalidated, leading me to believe she wasn’t trustworthy. This disconnect carried into adulthood, shaping the way I approached relationships.

Through coaching and self-work, I began a journey of inner child healing. I learned to tune into the sensations in my body, listening to the messages my inner child wanted to share. Reparenting her—offering her the love, reassurance, and trust she’d longed for—was transformative.

This process of healing and reparenting is now a cornerstone of the work I do with my clients. Using somatic techniques, such as Brainspotting and Internal Family Systems, I guide clients to reconnect with their inner child and repair that trust.

Healing Trauma to Build Healthy Relationships

For those of us who’ve experienced toxic relationships or trauma, rebuilding trust is a journey that requires time, compassion, and the right tools. Trauma impacts the way we see ourselves and the world, but it doesn’t have to define our ability to have healthy relationships.

In my coaching practice, I integrate trauma-informed methods to help clients heal. By focusing on mind-body-spirit connections and using modalities like somatic therapy, I’ve seen clients rediscover their ability to trust—not just others, but most importantly, themselves.

Final Thoughts

Trust is a gift we give ourselves first. Once we cultivate that inner trust, we create a foundation for healthy, loving relationships. It’s a journey, yes—but one that leads to the love and connection we all deserve.

If you’re ready to start building self-trust and healing from toxic relationship patterns, I’d love to support you on this journey. Together, we can create the foundation for the healthy, trusting relationship you’ve always wanted—starting with yourself.

Author - Rosie Fox, ICF & CPD Certified Coach specialising in Toxic Relationship Recovery, trained in counselling (BACP), NLP, and trauma-informed approaches. Dedicated to helping women heal after toxic relationships and create the life they deserve.